Wednesday, April 2, 2014

The Day I Realized Wedding Planning is Hard

Let me start by saying that I must have been completely delusional going into this.

All the books and checklists scared me half to death when I first started researching how to plan a wedding. Then I actually started forming ideas and figuring out what I wanted and thought, "Oh, this won't be difficult at all!" I had it all figured out and I was set.


On Saturday Erich and I went to the one place we were sure we wanted to have our wedding ceremony. (Oh, I should mention that we want to have the ceremony in a separate place from the reception. Let's just make it even harder, right?)  Well. We got there and both hated it. The woman we worked with was less than stellar, not really willing to work with us, and the garden looked like someone's front yard. It just wasn't the place for us. So now we're back to square one, which is really scary.

The venue we looked at. It's nice enough, but not nice enough for us. 
Part of the issue is that we already have a venue for our reception. It's not set in stone, but we like it and would like to keep it. The event coordinator is willing to work with us for dates and stuff, so we're off to a good start there. What we've been having to deal with is that many wedding venues aren't interested in allowing us to only have the ceremony there. So many places would rather turn us away so that they can keep the date open and book a full wedding/reception to make more money. Boo.

I've submitted a few forms to different places to get an appointment to view the venues, but communication seems to be soooooooo slow. Maybe it's just me because I'm generally impatient and now I'm an impatient bride (read: bridezilla), but I wish people were more responsive. My plan was to not be a fussy bride. I genuinely don't care about the small details. I care less than zero about the color of napkins or whether or not they have text and a cute picture on them. They're napkins. They are going to get thrown away. Well, guess what? I'm pretty shocked at myself because it turns out I do have opinions, and I also get really grouchy when things don't go my way. Bah humbug. (Also see: only-child problems.)

Our number one choice as of right now (if they'll ever email me back, yeesh!) is a place close by to what we've already seen. It's a house, and you can choose to hold the ceremony in the front of the house, in the back at a gazebo, or at a little beach area they have set up. It's right on the water and it's totally gorgeous. Let's hope this one works out. (I do have back-ups just in case. I learned that lesson the hard way, obviously.) And according to my mom, "there's always the church!" How about no.

Gorgeous, right? [via]
I really feel like once this seemingly simple, yet apparently very difficult task is done, I'll be so much less stressed and all the pieces will fall into place. Other brides out there -- past, present, or future -- tell me I'm not wrong. Please.

Wedding Wednesday


Kerry Beall said...

I know how you feel! We looked at tons of places before we found our ceremony and reception locations. After you have them booked, planning is easier because you can visualize your wedding. Don't stress too much!

Natalie said...

I wish we had the time to put more effort into our wedding... we didn't have all the fancy things like an after part and whatnot.. kinda regret it now.. I told John i wanted one at our 10 year anniversary! haha

Good Luck with this stuff!!